The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Yaakov and Mariya Shapirshetyn. Married on July 6, 1949.
Yaakov: “What is the secret to love? A secret is a secret, and I don’t reveal my secrets.”

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Yevgeniy and Lyubov Kissin. Married on June 29, 1941.
Yevgeniy: “We met at a dancing party. It was in January 1938. My friend invited me to the party. He said there would be a lot of beautiful young girls. Another cadet with high boots had approached her, but she didn’t like high boots and so she said no to him. I was the second one to approach her. I had a different uniform, but I’m still not sure if it was my uniform or my face that attracted her to me.”

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Sol and Gloria Holtzman. Married on Jan. 16, 1954.
Gloria: “I was the kind of girl that I fell in love right away. So the next day, I would tell my friend, ‘Terrific, I mean, I’m in love already.’ But after the first date with Sol, I did not feel that way. I told my friend, ‘No, he was very nice. We had a good time, but that was it.’ She was the one that came back with the statement, ‘I bet this is the guy you’re gonna end up marrying!’ “

 

American photographer Lauren Fleishman set out to capture heartwarming, tender portraits of couples whose love for each other has survived half a century in her series titled “The Lovers.” Call me crazy, but these portraits of people who have shared almost an entire lifetime together make me feel so much more emotion than mainstream images of young, fit, beautiful lovers running along the beach with their matching sculpted bods and perfect teeth. To me, these older couples represent a hope for a happy future and something we can all aspire to. The reason I also love these images so much is that, even though not all of us seek to have a companion for whatever reason, these life-long couples imply values I hope to instil in my own child, and anyone else I may have any influence over for that matter – values such as trust, loyalty, patience, kindness, selflessness, perseverance and optimism.

Fleishman’s project was inspired by a series of love letters written by her grandfather to her grandmother during World War II that she found in a book next to his bed. The letters spoke of a young love, the type filled with expectations of a new life together. “They connected me to my grandfather and his 59-year marriage in a way that I had not been able to connect to him in life. The letters inspired me to seek out and record the love stories of other long-married couples,” explains the photographer.

Perhaps it’s the fact my own parents celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary last month that I find these images so moving and relevant. Bur more importantly, I felt that in the spirit of the upcoming holidays and as another personal reflection on Christmas, I wanted to remind us once again of the importance of family and celebrating what we have, and, perhaps for some of us, what once was.

On that note, I hope you all have a fantastic break, a very Merry Christmas and the Happiest of Holidays. This is our last regular post for the year. In the coming weeks we will continue to bring you roundups of various topics and categories covered on Yellowtrace, and give you the chance to catch up on 2015 and all the awesomeness we’ve shared together.

The roundup posts will run daily from Monday 21st December through to Friday 15th January. Team Yellowtrace will be back on deck and resume our regular posting from Monday 18th January.

Now off you go, have a great time, and hope you manage to shut out the rest of the world for a little bit during the break, while you give and receive the ultimate gift of love – time and undivided attention.

Love always,
Mama Yellowtrace xx

 

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
David and Sheila Newman. Married on April 12, 1957.
Sheila: “David always supported any interests I had. He supported me with whatever I did, told me I should do the best I can. And I was anti-intellectual when I married him. I got to love music because he practiced a lot and I listened to him and he explained everything. We really changed, we enriched each other’s lives.”

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Fred and Frances Futterman. Married on Jan. 7, 1945.
Fran: “My love with Fred goes back a long time. He was kind, he was friendly, he was loveable, he was amiable. As you grow older, love changes. It changes because we change. Things that were meaningful then are not as meaningful now. Not that they are meaningless but not as meaningful. I guess we have different values as time goes on.”

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Gine and Angie Terranova. Married on Sept. 27, 1947.
Angie: “You really don’t think about getting older. First of all, you’re aging together, and when you see a person constantly, you don’t notice big changes. Like you don’t notice, oh you’re getting a little wrinkle here and tomorrow you say it’s a little deeper. No, those are things that just happen. You don’t pay attention to those things. I mean, I’m not thinking every day, ‘Oh my husband’s 83 years old, he’s gonna be 84, oh my goodness, I’m married to an old man!’ And I hope he feels that way too.”

The Lovers by Lauren Fleishman | Yellowtrace
Itig and Golda Pollac.
Golda: “We knew each other before the war, but we never spoke. He was with other girls because he was much, much older than me. You know, he was very nice-looking! He was a tailor, and he had a place where he made suits for men. When we came back from the war, he had gone to my sister’s house. I was staying with her. In August of this year, we will have been married 63 years. I would say love came little by little. Not right away. We were young. And he was older, but I liked him. He spoke to me in a very nice way.”


[Images courtesy of Lauren Fleishman.]

 

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Dana is an award-winning interior designer living in Sydney, Australia. With an unhealthy passion for design, Dana commits to an abnormal amount of daily design research. Regular travel and attendance at premier design events, enables Dana to stay at the forefront of the design world globally. While she is super serious about design, Dana never takes herself - nor design - too seriously. Together with her life and business partner, Nick Hughes, Dana is Boss Lady at Studio Yellowtrace, specialising in Interior Design, Creative Direction and Special Projects. The studio takes a highly conceptual and holistic approach to translating brands & ideas into places.

4 Responses

  1. Ezabelle

    I just absolutely love this post. There really is something about our elder generation that bears witness to a genuine love and hope. This reminds me to slow down in this crazy fast world.
    Congratulations on your parents amazing milestone. And wishing you and your beautiful family a very Merry Christmas. X

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  2. Catherine

    This is a truly beautiful and uplifting post. Thank you. May we have a peaceful and loving festive season.

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  3. Kenneth Mason

    Makes me feel sad for the young people today. I wonder if any of them will ever know a love like this?? I wonder if any of them will ever know that there COULD be a love like this?? In an age and time where speed seems to rule, the heat and passion of a quick love is outdone by the lasting and lingering ember of this lind of love….

    kapm

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